Big Decisions

Last night an offer was made. My partner and I have some big decisions to make.

The boys we’ve been watching every other weekend, well, we love them a lot. It’s kind of like what all new parents should go through in order to see if they are fit to be parents on a more permanent basis. However, last night after we had dinner with their mother, she asked if we would want to make this arrangement a little more permanent and, well, more visitation if we also wanted. More as in adoption.

Here is the situation. The boys’s father is out of the picture and has no interest in them. The boys’s mother would like them to have positive male role models in their lives and one of the options she wants to consider is having us legally adopt them in order to remove their dad completely. This would be a co-custody agreement, something I know full-well having come from a divorced family where the arrangement was (mostly) amicable and evenly divided. My partner on the other hand has some genuine concerns with shared-parenting.

So this Valentine’s Day, with our crappy housing and financial situation and an unknown not-too-distant future, we’ve got even more to think about. Do we let this chance to become parents slip away because it came upon us sooner than expected, or do we take the plunge? I for one think the three of us have a lot to talk about.